Here are 22 components of self-love that was published anonymously in the UK a few years ago. I edited some of the definitions because I don’t believe it’s about worshipping yourself, but rather breaking old trauma patterns and silencing old voices in order to learn how to value your unique self and treat yourself with loving kindness:
A sense of comfort and ease with yourself, accepting all that you are, your strengths, weakness to understand that you are of singular worth.
Acknowledgement, recognition, and admiration of your individual qualities and that there is only one precious you.
A clear understanding of your personality, strengths, weaknesses, qualities, and flaws.
Looking after yourself. Taking care of your physical, spiritual, emotional, and mental health. Increasing your well-being through healthy self-care.
Being gentle, empathetic, and showing loving kindness to yourself. Being understanding of your current situation.
Trusting yourself and relying on your own judgment. The positive image you have of yourself and the courage of your convictions.
Taking full responsibility for your life. Taking actions to create the life you want. The degree to which you exercise your power over your perceptions and emotions in order to do what is necessary for your own self-growth.
The ability to relax and employ your abilities and strengths in any given situation.
A healthy, balanced opinion of yourself with the knowledge that you have every right to be here and express yourself.
Holding yourself in healthy regard. Being a friend to yourself.
The deep knowing that you are worthy and deserving of the good things that you are bringing or can bring into your life.
12. Positive self-image:
Feeling good about yourself, having a positive view of yourself.
Unwavering commitment to the truth about yourself and how your actions, thoughts, and choices affect your life and the people around you.
Clearing out negative self-judgment and negative self-criticism. Remembering that you are human and will always making mistakes, which is all part of the learning process. Allowing yourself to let go of past hurts and disappointments you have endured when you felt that you let yourself down or didn’t have access to the resources, knowledge, or the support you needed when you made the decisions which hurt you.
Ability to look inside yourself for the answer. The confidence you have in your intuition and knowledge.
Making choices that honor your soul, having pride in yourself, and behaving with dignity.
Consistently choosing to create opportunities to allow yourself to receive and experience play, pleasure, and fun. Inviting opportunities for happiness and feeding your soul with joy.
Allowing yourself freedom of expression, being unapologetic, allowing the real you to shine.
The ability to bounce back from setbacks, adversity, and other negatives. The ability to get yourself back up after being knocked down.
Having integrity in your own beliefs and actions and the determination to do the right thing.
Fulfillment of the possibilities of your character or personality. The ability to distinguish your true self from your ego.
Liberation! No need to wait for others approval or feel you have to prove yourself. Accepting who you are and where you are now. Appreciating and being in agreement with yourself.